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    My friend has a younger brother and he's closeted gay. Their parents think that he's only bisexual so they're confident that there's a chance that he'll still be able to date a woman. It turns out that he secretly has a boyfriend already and he's having a hard time to stay "bisexual" as to what his parents claim him to be. If I'd ask you guys here, is it easy to keep things on the low, or is it time for him to officially come out as gay?

  • #2
    His parents would be heartbroken should they learn that he is not a real bisexual but a closeted gay. He should stay as is and still claim to be bisexual. He could do some acting and date some women just to make his parents happy.

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    • #3
      Hiding is difficult. Making something which is not is difficult. So, when would he come out in the open. When would he tell the truth? It is better to tell the truth now and have a happy life than to keep on hiding the truth and live in difficulty.

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      • StickStitch
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        How can he have a happy life? I bet he's expecting the worse already that's why he's still keeping it to himself and he's struggling to finally come out to his parents.

    • #4
      Ah! He is just on the circuitous process of coming out as a bisexual but in reality he is gay. Time will come that he will confess that he is really gay. You just need to wait for the right time. Do not worry. That time would come soon.

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      • BreezeLoveTroik
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        He's having a moment embracing his true self and soon, he will be out and proud. No one needs to pressure him whatsoever. It's best that he will come out when he's feeling 100% sure about it too.

    • #5
      It is his choice. If he wants a hard life, he could continue to be a fake bisexual. If he wants an easy life without hiding then he should admit that he is gay.

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      • #6
        Coming out is hard. He should keep it as a secret. He should remain to be a bisexual until the truth comes out. By then, he could already admit that he has been gay.

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        • CumbersomeDirection
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          Well, in that case, I'm sure that his family will know but still, they would accept him for who he is. What else can they do? It's 2019, people are aware that some of us are born with it, we learn to grow and slowly discover our true selves. Which is not a bad thing, it's a way of living, it is, to discover yourself.

      • #7
        If he's finally ready to reveal his gender identity, then I think he should come out already. But if not, then maybe it's better if he keeps it hidden for the mean time.

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        • #8
          It is not easy to hide your gender identity especially if you already have a partner. But what I can suggest is that, build up your courage and prepare yourself for the judgments that you may receive when you finally decide to come out. Judgments are inevitable but if you know that you are not doing anything wrong, then, you don't have to pay attention to those judgments.

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          • #9
            I do think that it would be best if he already comes out as gay. In that way, his parents won't be hopeful that he'll have a girlfriend someday. Also, when he finally reveals his gender identity, things will be much easier for him and his boyfriend.

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