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  • Struggling for acceptance

    How to help a friend who is struggling to accept herself?
    Is listening enough?
    Or do we need to give some advices?

    I am not talking of acceptance from other people. This is the acceptance of the self that you are a trans woman.

  • #2
    She might still be in confusion stage. The stage where she does not know what she is yet. That would take time - even at the near end of the lifetime. Have you seen people who came out at age 60? Goodness. That is too long for coming out and accepting yourself as a trans woman. Anyway, as for your friend, just listen first to what she would want to share.


    • HaremHarmony
      HaremHarmony commented
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      The confusion stage usually comes and goes. Probably because of dealing with certain things that affect the way you think and how you should act or live your life. I think I kinda understand that this usually happens when you're that person who is struggling to overcome the change you're dealing with. I've had a recent talk on the phone with an acquaintance who opens up his struggles of acceptance. He trusts me so much that he shared it with me and told me what was going on with him. This topic was such a coincidence too.

  • #3
    You know, he or she might have been dealing with a sudden identity crisis, so I suggest they should seek professional help. Believe me, friends and family wouldn't be enough to understand your situation.


    • JoyTwin
      JoyTwin commented
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      Not her own situation but that was her friend.
      Anyway, you are right. She should seek a professional help.
      Even then, the support of family and friend should be there. But that would be an another story.

    • pussySwankylicking
      pussySwankylicking commented
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      I would not believe that a trans person would be struggling with his or her own self. They've come a long way and why now? Why would they even think of things like that? Sorry, I've never had any identity crises or struggles, I've accepted who I really am that's why I'm asking these things, why?

    • assHangingtight
      assHangingtight commented
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      I do not think that even those professional help would do a lot to solve the issue.

  • #4
    I think listening to their rants or problems and giving them advice is not enough. That's why I would recommend them to seek professional help, I've never been struggling to accept who I am now but some friends were because they have anxiety issues and some had a traumatizing past. It's good to know that the help that they needed surely does help them to change their ways of thinking. Having friends and families who guides you through would make healing feel better for them.


    • evaspringer
      evaspringer commented
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      Yup, if the advice of the friends do not help then seeking a professional help would do but I do not think that it will still solve the problem. Did you know that suicide is high among the LGBT community?

    • SraAddictionAnnAccord
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      evaspringer It is an absolute fact that suicide happens among the LGBTQ+ Community but because of people who have experienced any form of abuse and it saddens me that we should put an end to it.

  • #5
    Originally posted by KistKiss View Post
    How to help a friend who is struggling to accept herself?
    Is listening enough?
    Or do we need to give some advice?
    I'm sorry but some people think that listening and advice wouldn't be enough. They should have a therapist because they might be undergoing social anxiety when they get judged by others. It triggers them to overthink of things that affects their whole being.


    • FollowShrillPresent
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      I think that seeing a specialist should be the last resort if her friends can't help her in coping her situation

    • garyrary
      garyrary commented
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      FollowShrillPresent it would be better if she sees a specialist while her friends are talking to her as well

  • #6
    It would be listening to what the person has to say and giving advice and all the support that you can give. Just reassure the person that no matter what happens, you have his or her back


    • assWrytight
      assWrytight commented
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      I think that this is the best thing that we could do with our friends. To just listen on what they want to share. They say they we should not give any advices at all. The answer should come from the person himself.

    • ClingClippie
      ClingClippie commented
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      StrangeCup just because you thought that what he said makes perfect sense it doesn't mean that he's a psychologist or guidance counselor

    • Loverser
      Loverser commented
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      What kind of support are needed here? What are the specific things that you can do?

  • #7
    If she is still struggling to accept her self then she has a problem. Is that stage called identity crisis? Or does it have a name of its own?


    • CumbersomeDirection
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      No, that is not an identity crisis. When you say identity crisis, you do not know what you are. Her case is different as she could not accept that she is a trans.

    • JaneDough
      JaneDough commented
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      I think it can still count as a form of identity crisis since she still doesn't accept her identity